This morning I had to forgive myself before I even got out of bed.
I woke up feeling actually rested, something that still feels so precious after sleeping so poorly at times this year, and I just laid there for awhile watching the clouds move outside my bedroom windows. It was early, and the morning light hadn’t fully taken center stage yet – it felt like by watching the day begin to unravel I was being told a secret that not everyone gets to hear.
But my moment of just breathing into the aliveness didn’t seem to last long at all before my brain began to list off all the things I *should* be doing with this day off. It’s the last day of the year, and one of my last vacation days before heading back to work after the holidays. Immediately I could feel myself start to tighten up, even though I was just laying there in bed. I was preemptively filling my day with things that would make me appear to be productive and in control, even if all the things I was listing in my head were not things that I actually had the headspace to handle today.
The thoughts just flooded in for a few moments before something stopped them. A memory of a conversation with my best friend a couple days ago. We were sitting in my living room talking about this coming year, the start of a brand new decade, and I asked them what they thought would be their biggest challenge coming into this next year. When they bounced the question back on me, I told them that getting in my own way will probably persist as being my biggest challenge.
It’s true because I am a master at stepping into my own path and putting up roadblocks that need not be there. I see a clear sunny day and have to throw in a few rain clouds because things couldn’t possibly be as good as they seem.
Remembering that conversation snapped me out of the mind tunnel that I had unintentionally starting digging for myself. Because this year that we are celebrating the birth of with fireworks and community and giving ourselves time to grieve the year that twenty-nineteen has been is worth giving ourselves a break over. No sense in stressing about a life that we haven’t even begun to build when all we want to be doing is existing right where we are.
So I took out my phone and made a list of things that I wanted to do today. I went to write at my favorite coffee shop. I picked up ingredients to cook myself a delicious warm meal and make homemade dog treats for my four legged baby. I took down my christmas tree and gave myself time to just sit in the quiet that I’ve built for myself in this space and just thought about all the 2019 was to me. I laid in bed and forgave myself for putting too much pressure on a day that required nothing from me to be good.
And I think that’s what 2020 feels like for me right now. Tonight feels like an exhale, right before you jump. It feels like 2020 will be the inhale of grabbing on to a life that we have been fighting for. It feels like forgiving yourself over and over when we put pressure on ourselves to build something that doesn’t fit who we are. It feels like forgiving the small moments that weigh on us because we didn’t realize that we could just let go.
I started this last day of a decade by forgiving myself.
I hope tonight you can forgive yourself too.
Happy New Years, loves. The clock is about to strike twelve.
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